Everyone says being a girl means leading a life that belongs to others not you... Sacrificing at every step, toiling hard to make your own identity, still being referred as 'Grihalaxmi'. From birth till death, a girl's life is like a burden on the shoulders, dragged by father first, then the husband, and son... for which working day and night as a housekeeper is the only alternative left for her, regardless of her own wishes and desires. Changing times might have changed her life... but the struggle still remains the same... the hardships which have now spread wings wider, taking them to all the domains of life, from professional world to the household. But the things which haven't changed are male chauvinism... and the social norms which make her handicapped enough with an overload of becoming a good homemaker along with having her own social identity, which is kind of a necessity these days. Women are now facing endless challenges at every step ahead... more the delve deeper into their equal rights, more are the difficulties for them to fight the male chauvinist society, where at some places they are looked down upon as 'paun ki dhul'. Where some parents educate their daughters to make them self reliant and self sufficient, so that their life with in-laws is not a problem in any way, leading them to a path of twice the hardships as earlier... some of them still don't have enough resources to send them to school, and try to either marry them as soon as possible or sell them. Hardships and difficult life to lead ahead... that's all they get. But I'd better not generalize it...
... For there are instances of girls who have been treated as 'Dhanlaxmi' in their families throughout their life. Who have led a life of princess without having to do any sorts of hardships and struggle for their own self... and this is how I'd describe the Indian Girl midst the traditional ties... from Dhanlaxmi to Grihalaxmi.... leading a life of pleasures with pain...
Regardless of all the worries and hurdles, the kind of love and warmth they carry in their hearts is commendable. The way they hold back all the relations so close and tight... just like a garland of pearls. Might sound like some filmy dialogue, but the reality remains the same throughout... mere times and situations keep changing, the roles a girl plays in her life from a daughter to a grandmother... a long distance and a tough story to capture. A daughter being most delicate of all... who has to always keep up her spirits high, not only to maintain her parents social image, but also to provide them the emotional support in their life. Though child is all the same for parents no matter boy or girl... but daughters are still much closely attached to their parents' heart, and understands them better... not commenting on the male attachment with parents, just to see a bigger picture of no matter what a daughter will always care about her parents. I feel the same being a daughter... and I'm proud I'm a girl!
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